There are moments when other people just set you off, and you lose your patience.
It has lead to the downfall of many of us — coworkers, friends, children, spouses, others — they can make you angry.
And it can ruin your day. You clench your jaw, you replay
imaginary arguments in your head or worse, you snap. And
then you feel like crap.
How can we find the patience?
I will admit that I’m no saint. Just like everyone else, I get annoyed and I will say things in a less- than-kind tone.
Here’s what helps me:
First, I learn to be aware of the emotions that rush up from nowhere.
I learn to accept those emotions as perfectly fine.
And I watch them, but don’t act. It’s OK to be mad, but breathe. Talk to the other person, after you’ve calmed
down, about the problem. And then I breathe.
I remind my childlike emotions that: other people are different, and that’s good. When people live and work
together, there will be friction and that is a part of the mix of
humanity.
I remind myself that: life is too short to
waste my days in irritation and anger. I don’t let other people’s problems become my own.
I then give thanks. Gratitude solves all problems. I am grateful for having this friend or
stranger, in my life, and I’m grateful for the chance to even
be here and for the incredible life I have.
I talk to the other person, when
I’ve calmed down, with compassion. I respond with love.
It often will melt the other person’s anger and things will go better.
Patience isn’t an easy thing, but the alternative is much worse.
Love will triumph if you let it...
I hope this few points help you in controlling your anger...
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